Deutsche Blogs sind unfreundlich – oder?

Today I want to think about German blogs. Sometimes every blogger out there has enough. I too have experienced this and that. Dealing with criticism, of course – that’s part of blogging. But not with unjustified, envious, indifferent and simply provocative…

For example, in the last few days a blogger wrote to me via Facebook. That she would like to be part of the blogger’s heart.

All well and good, I gladly and immediately gave her all the most important facts and links (because she was well behaved and polite). Everything was met with interest. The person probably read my information for a few minutes, visited the website, discovered the Bloggerherz group on Facebook with almost 3,000 positive bloggers associated with it. She obviously really liked the offer – I mean, who doesn’t? 🙂

But then the U-turn, because this blogger suddenly demanded (!) an interview with herself and LIVE

She had probably spotted those “normal interviews from others” (a bit condescending towards the others, right? – did she think she was doing something better with over 100,000 Instagram followers?) here and there & she probably thought to herself: Interview = writing = stupid – because thinking too much about yourself & writing work for you.

I should kindly travel to her in Munich and interview her there via video – completely free of charge, of course.

Aja…. I first kindly made it clear to her that such an interview would require time on my part. A huge amount of time, familiarizing yourself with your blog, researching you personally, asking questions, the journey, and even the costs & that „time“ on my part is unfortunately somewhat marginal at the moment. I simply and politely declined an interview with blogger XY due to time constraints.

However, in a friendly manner, I continued the idea of ​​cooperation that lay within me & I gave her 2 possible solutions (like every other applicant) to simply submit an article on Bloggerherz.de or an interview with herself, either with me (again in a friendly manner) on bloggerinterview .com to publish. I could then publish and share the latter as quickly as possible in the next few days so that she would be satisfied.

So far…the offer stood. And then blog hell broke loose

Because what came next turned the tide and my understanding. The blogger just bravely ranted about it: What occurred to me was that she should do an interview with herself. And that the blogger’s heart doesn’t have many authors at all, the site is bullshit… (why is she applying then?), the design is also crap and so on… I basically don’t want to continue with the whole thing carry out….

The person simply became insulting & even personal – just because they didn’t get their way

My (still) nice answer to this – „Then you should do better and create something better for other bloggers“ – the person ignored. When it then continued to become personal, I had to „with a heavy heart“ completely block the friend and email request, which was actually meant to be nice (and then turned out to be a Hell’s Bride blogger), and ban it from all my pages, which I „under „Bloggers“ are something I rarely do and actually only do in spam emergencies on the fan pages. Blocked and goodbye!

I don’t care about this person’s 100,000 followers and what the lady continues to complain about in an unfriendly way. Hihi – my precious and positive life time is simply too good for that. Negative- people out! 

Clearly: no! It is not so! I’d say 70% of the bloggers who write, the creative souls and the doers that I’ve met so far in the course of my business, are consistently positive. You really should put aside prejudices if you don’t know the person yet (I too have been surprised here and there – and in a very, very positive way!). And they are friendly because everyone wants to network (usually at least in this writing business, because alone or unfriendly it is very, very difficult to win a flower pot out there.

But back to my case:

Little, prepubescent girl stress or is there more to it?

I seriously asked myself that – even a few days later. Ultimately, after not seeing any „insight“ or apology from the person, I had to react in exactly the same way. Is it perhaps envy, resentment or your own inadequacy that drives you to make such statements? And might this person then possibly report negatively about me because they were unable to get their way?

Luckily, there are “Google Alerts” with my preset notifications for this and good online defamation lawyers. The internet never forgets – but you can at least take action against the fact that incorrect things are passed on. Who Knows? I can only say what I (also) learned from this little communication story; yes, which even strengthened my view of cooperation:

Cooperation is about giving and taking with a lot of respect and friendliness on both sides – this should be the top motto, especially among bloggers!

As with real friends, respect and respect should be maintained or maintained among bloggers who should actually support each other rather than fight each other. Don’t just mindlessly tap away at the keyboard like a stubborn child, but just think about what you’re writing and to whom. The protective cloak of anonymity probably makes those outbursts of anger easier – writing them off if you don’t like the other’s arguments. This makes life easier and easier.

You don’t have to immediately embrace the new or my interview series or praise it ad nauseam, BUT…

… practice not simply switching your criticism from factual to personal when you realize that you are not right. I noticed that there is a high level of resentment, lack of trust, and caustic rejection of many new (and often good, collaborative) things happening in the blogosphere. Here we should mention the greed for links, the fact that you don’t give other bloggers a comment or feedback even though you think an article is very good, or the difficulty of really being able to understand people who obviously present themselves as „open minded“. Real Life with your blog opinion. Or that WhatsApp/Telegram groups are not used correctly and collaboratively for networking.

Blogging and the social web are often like real life – and not a separate pair of shoes!

Both flow together. Normally both should always flow together. That also seems more authentic. The only difference between the two levels is: hidden behind their own blogs and websites/networks, many people express themselves much more than they have previously been able to in real life. Dealing with criticism objectively and constructively or learning to do so is easier to brush off and flee from on the web.

Hope and opportunities – community instead of loneliness and anonymity rules

I still hope that we can share content with each other. That you treat each other well. That I set my own record of 25,000 interviews by 2025 (currently we are at 1500). Here is my new promotional video from today:

Click here for your interview. 

And I also believe in this:

That you accept each other’s work and blog/blogging. The reasons why you blog are so varied and individual that I could ever criticize or even “evaluate” them. I don’t want that at all. Everyone should be happy with their content – just not make others unhappy or attack them if they don’t like it.

How do you rate the unfriendliness of bloggers? Experienced yourself? Strange stories? Do you share my insights? I’m looking forward to your experiences. Have a wonderful Wednesday evening everyone. A little blogger heart from many (kind-hearted) ones out there…

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